I'm
sorry to read about you thinking that you "just do not
love & respect myself enough to believe that others can
love me", & interested that you can't make any
connections from past events that might have contributed
to what sounds like low self esteem? I'm sending a link
to a site which could be useful for you to read &
realise that many people, men & women, have a similar
problem, leading to a lack of self confidence in
themselves.
There are many more sites on the same theme on Google
but this one (below) has a very sensible approach, &
gives some simple exercises to try & help you make some
changes in your attitude, particularly as you are now
pregnant & may be feeling even more vulnerable.
You explain that the pregnancy has changed your feelings
towards your partner & made you question his loyalty,
although it sounds as though he is being as supportive
as he can. I wonder if it would help you to try &
explain how these feelings of insecurity are affecting
your confidence in this new situation,& ask him how he
too is feeling generally? Sometimes it is easier to stay
with how you are feeling to the exclusion of sharing
your thoughts & fears with each other.
I think you'll find that reading through the information
on the site(s) below first might help to clarify what is
worrying you the most,& help you to find a quiet time to
talk to your partner about how this forthcoming change
in the relationship is affecting you.
If couples can communicate as honestly as possible then
it can help to discover more about your partner, but I
do understand that sometimes saying your concerns aloud
can be a bit daunting if you're not used to revealing
your inner thoughts to anyone. However, this is the
father of your baby & you have now shared your worries
here online, so I hope it will help you to take the next
step of finding out more about yourself, & taking him
into your confidence bit by bit.
I know it is hard to adjust to pregnancy at any stage of
your life,& quite often men feel left out & helpless,
but this could be an opportunity for you to start to
trust him bit by bit by asking for specific help &
support in planning your Dr appointments etc,& talking
about your hopes & fears for the future?
I hope the sites help you to feel less alone, & that you
will feel free to come back & discuss anything that is
still troubling you. There are other ways of getting
therapeutic support online which can be found on google
but I hope that these will help get you started &
provide you with the knowledge that there is help
available.
►www.netdoctor.co.uk
►www.selfgrowth.com
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